The general idea is that most of the obstacles we face in our lives are imaginary. Everything from our daily diet, to who we want to be when we grow up is determined by the choices we make. And we make choices based on pre-conceived notions.
:::: Which are completely imaginary (and sometimes not provided by experience, but by word of mouth) ::::
Even if you have done something 100 times, you still can’t 100 percent guarantee that the 101st time you do it will yield the same results. You can only assume, and usually, you’re right. However, this holds a lot of us back from being persistent with our goals and ambitions.
I like using the “Going to the Gym” theory. We all know that the hardest part about going to the gym is getting there. But once we get dressed, make the drive, and are right in the middle of a rep, it is almost easy to motivate yourself into doing more while you’re there.
Getting there, however, is the most difficult part. We will actually NOT go to the gym for YEARS because we make up excuses:
I’ll go tomorrow - I don’t want to be sore for work later- I just ate a big meal and don’t want to get sick - I don’t have any clean gym clothes - I’ll just eat better instead…
This really has nothing to do with the gym, and everything to do with getting in your own way. As I get older, I see more clearly everyday that if you wanted to quit everything you were doing now to do something different, maybe something you’re more passionate about, you can.
I get a lot of messages about people wondering if Architecture is right for them and that is such a difficult thing to answer. It might not be AT ALL!! But I don’t want to be the judge of that.
So here is my advice:
Find something that intoxicates you with the thought of doing it. Think of your DREAM JOB, no matter what it is. Something that you could see yourself doing and be genuinely happy doing for the rest of your life, and do that.
It takes a lot to wrap your head around the idea of being successful doing something people might tell you is unrealistic, but you have to think for yourself. Make no mistake that you have the power to become anyone you want to be, and do anything you want to do. Some of us just have more obstacles to overcome, and you can’t be afraid of sacrificing everything you know to make that dream a reality.
But you have to stop listening to EVERYTHING people tell you, and start listening only to the pieces that make yourself fit together in your own way. If you do everything people tell you to do, your life will never have permanence. Because everyone’s opinion of what is possible is different.
If you are getting into architecture because someone said you should do it, but your real passion in somewhere else. Do that other thing. If you have always wanted to become an architect since you were a little kid, and feel that design is your passion, then maybe this is a good fit for you. And who knows, you might not know if it is a good fit for you and you just want to find out more, but don’t let anyone make a decision for you. Figure it out for yourself and you will find much more satisfaction in the long run.
This reminds me of a great story called The Fisherman and The Businessman. It gives a pretty cool perspective.
Hope this helps some of you. :)
- Mark, tipsforarchitectureschool